"THE BOSS BLOG"
The last few days I have been fortunate enough to truly find out how much peace, relief and liberation lies on the other side of emotional turmoil. This may not be the case for everyone, but for those of us who have held in our deepest feelings without any form of expression, there is a well of happiness that awaits you. In the last blog post I talked a lot about emotional freedom, but I didn't really go into the journey itself and what it takes to get there. So here goes, but first I want to give you a bit of background on me.
I grew up with what I call the "Superhero Syndrome." No matter how bad things ge around you, a man can't show his feelings or look weak in front of anyone. I also was under the impression that crying was the worst thing you could do if you wanted to appear "strong." Needless to say, all this was leading me to was a one way ticket to heart attack central. You see, you have a heart chakra that needs to be open daily. And the one way to make that happen is to embrace all parts of love. The good, the bad, the happy, the sad, the terrible, the unbelievable etc. If not, you find your heart hardens over time. I can remember being at funerals and loving the person who had just passed with all of my heart, but I wasn't able to cry. Sadly, even by the time I was seventeen, I always wanted to give this strong image of always being in control, but as I later understood, not if it was going to be a detriment to my health, relationships and ultimately, my happiness. I knew that I had to do something about this. The first was acceptance and it was the most important step. I had to realize that this is my journey my soul chose and I accept it with open arms now and all the good that can come from it if I could find the Divine lesson. Because of that, I'm happy to say that not only are my arms opened, but so is my heart. Because of taking the time to truly feel things, all things, no matter what they are, I am able to live a lighter, happier existence.
Just earlier today I broke down into tears from experiencing so much gratitude for where I am and what I've been through over the course of my life. It hasn't always been easy for me. Hell, it's been at times darkness with no sense of light anywhere. But, I never complained and I always trusted that when we hold onto Divine love, power and guidance, the light eventually finds us. Just to look out onto the ocean and feel so much appreciation for all of the help that God, my wife, my family and my friends have given me, you can see why I couldn't hold back my true emotion. I can honestly say, it's one of the most beautiful things you could ever experience.
So I encourage you greatly, feel everything. Feel the joy of the growth you have made, but also feel the sadness of missing a loved one. Feel the disgust because things didn't go as you planned, but feel the happiness of the time you spend with your loved ones. Either way let the emotion run it's course and allow yourself the power of feeling at peace as soon as it passes. I used to think that positive thinking was the answer to all of my problems. The truth is, it's only a start. The real power lies within emotional feeling and emotional intelligence. The reason being is that it continues to do what was divinely ordered from the time you entered this world: Continue to help you experience unconditional love every moment you're alive.
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We often overlook, as a society, how important our emotional well being is to living a fulfilling life. Heck! Let's just call a spade a spade and realize that you can't live a great life without it. I've come to that point in my life where I've decided to face the emotions I've held down deep for a long time. Thankfully, I didn't explode like a ticking time bomb. But, the beauty in this purging was all the wonderful things that were produced from it. My marriage has been truly amazing since I met my wife six years ago. We've lived an amazing life together and have continued to grow. It's been, without a doubt, a once in a lifetime opportunity.
Throughout our marriage though, there were times where I felt emotionally empty, even almost depressed. The trouble was, I couldn't pin point what was actually causing this vibration. Me being the strong willed person that I am, I combated these emotions with powerful self motivating talk. Even at times pounding myself on the chest to get out of the funk. Often this would work wonders, but after a short period of time, I was physically drained. My wife recognized it alot and the last thing I wanted to be was A BURDEN ON ANYONE ELSE. This was the biggest problem to my emotional freedom.
Growing up in a family with three brothers had it's phenomenal moments and it's challenging moments. Sometimes the challenging times can be so powerful that those are the ones that leave a lasting mark on our evolution. My experience was no different. I watched my two older brothers grow up in an environment where we often had to fear for our lives because of the violence the city (New Orleans) saw over the years. This in itself created a deep fear of anything you couldn't get a handle on. On top of that there was so much pressure to succeed and stay upright that alot of kids just couldn't take it. They turned to crime, drugs, sadly, some even were caught up in the labyrinth of violence. At a young age, you can't really process the toll this takes on you. As I watch more and more of my mom's stress escalate, I knew I had to take it on myself not to ever be a problem. Even if it meant keeping things inwardly and not expressing them. Often times I would do something amazing, I couldn't find myself to celebrate it whatsoever. I carried this on into my adulthood, once again, never being able to enjoy the things that were unfolding before my eyes. Or rather, in the midst of some of the most amazing experiences, I could feel a deep sadness. It wasn't until my wife finally figured out was transpiring, life was truly miserable at times. I'm excited to share with you what has helped me enjoy my life on an abundant level.
We were walking the beach in Paradise Cove, and we stopped and started talking. She told me, I feel like your energy is sad what's causing it? Is it something I did? After I told her it had nothing to do with her, a light bulb went off. She made me promise that I would communicate all that I was feeling. When I tell you it was complete EMOTIONAL LIBERATION! To be able to express myself and not fear being judged for what I was truly feeling was the therapeutic joy I had been wanting for so many years. I could immediately feel that burdensome energy lifting off of me. For years, I had always tried to be the hero who didn't cause trouble, who didn't express weakness or who didn't release how he truly felt. It was as if I had received a second lot on life. No longer am I sad or depressed, or carrying around my childhood issues.
The key for me and for everyone to emotional freedom is in COMMUNICATION. When you can honestly communicate your innermost feelings, you move that emotional cloud of stress, anxiety and sadness. Whether it's your wife, husband, mother, father, friends or siblings, EXPRESS YOUR DEEPEST FEELINGS. This is most true for men because we are taught to be super strong and powerful, but not vulnerable and swimming in our own sensitivity. This is often the result of men becoming abusers of all kind. We must limit this perspective in all of our children from a young age. Part of being a human being is fulfilling the masculine and feminine parts of your soul. Stop at nothing to get this done. Not only you, but your loved ones will profit greatly from your journey.
In the end, everything we need to experience emotional freedom, lies within ourselves. If we can find a way to communicate the depths of our emotional experiences, on the other side lies a magnitude of bliss, peace and joy. CHOOSE TO BE FREE!
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One of the craziest things I’ve come to realize, lately in my life, is how prominent judgment was used in my upbringing. It became so inundated in my existence that it soon just became a way of life. But as I began to embark upon a spiritual quest to consistent soul evolution, something stood out like a soar thumb. That something was the unlimited amount of peace, joy, clarity and happiness we experience by living in a nonjudgmental way. To be more specific, I would like to show you what happens when you judge someone.
Let’s say I bring you to a place that has ten doors with prizes behind each of them. You go to open one door and you notice that what’s behind it is something you either “do not like” or something you’re unfamiliar with. Immediately you begin to judge it. As you’re judging door number one, you decide that you’re not going to even open the others. If you only knew that behind door number seven was the prize that could change your life, you would have kept going. But, you allowed the past to dictate your present and future and you missed out on your opportunity. This metaphor is a clear depiction of what happens when we judge. We limit the options that God (Universe) is offering us. I used a message similar to this to never allow my past to get in the way of what my present could bring into my existence. The result has always been new, exciting as well as invigorating experiences. Always stay open to what your higher self could be possibly bringing into your life to make it more fulfilling.
One of the first ways to living in a nonjudgmental way is unconditional acceptance. That means whatever comes your way, accept it. You don’t always have to agree with it, but when you accept it you can flow with your circumstances a lot easier. Another thing acceptance does is cancel out resistance. If you want to get rid of stress, turmoil and frustration, refuse to resist anything. Resistance is the quickest way to find yourself running in emotional circles. Anything that occurs, ask yourself: What’s the lesson in this situation? Once you gain an understanding, move on and continue to live in the moment. Speaking of living in the moment, the last concept of nonjudgmental living is mindfulness.
Mindfulness, next to love, becomes the most pivotal action to take against judgment. Why? Well, judgment is always based on past conditioning. If you view every moment as new, that fresh perspective will always give you something to enjoy or learn from. It’s just that simple! Never leave the present moment and you will effortlessly live the most fulfilling life you could ever imagine.
There’s always a choice when it comes to judgment. If you choose to live in a nonjudgmental way, it may not always be easy but in the end, it’s definitely worth it for you and those around you.
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A few months ago, I decided to wage a war on poverty. What I discovered in my journey was that fear was the basis for all circumstances of lack. Fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment and more importantly, a A FEAR OF LOSS. The reason why a fear of loss resonates at such a higher magnitude than the others is because IT STOPS US FROM TAKING DIVINELY GUIDED ACTION. It springs us into possessive, attached, protection mode. The only problem is that it shuts you off to transformational change as well as life evolving opportunities. Now that we are aware of this, now is the time to WAGE A WAR ON FEAR, if you haven't already. Here's how we're going to do limit fear's power in your life.
1. IDENTIFY YOU FEAR. Before I was able to face and overcome all of the fears I had accumulated over my life, I had to identify them. Once I identified them, I related each one to the experiences of my life where fear dominated. Being unaware of the fear that's affecting you is like driving without a map. If you need to change direction at some point how will you know if you can't comprehend what you're trying to overcome. So, what fear do you have? If an important person left your life at an impressionable time, you may have a fear of abandonment or loss. If you were ostracized for being different or felt unloved as a child or teenager, you may have a fear of rejection. Either way, find out which one you have so you can alleviate it from your life.
2. REVERSE YOUR FEAR ON THE SPOT. So you're in the process of winning your war against fear and then WHAM! It pops up in a situation you're facing. All you have to do is stop for a moment, take a deep breath, neutralize, and say to yourself I CHOOSE POWER OVER FEAR. The more you do this, the more your subconscious mind will help you to choose empowering behavior over disempowering behaviors.
3. LEAN INTO YOUR FEARS. In most cases, the ability to think is wonderful, but when it comes to fear ,it's often a great idea to just not think at all and jump right into it. Your action will inspire you on so many levels. I remember I had a HUGE fear of water and I finally came to a point where I was staring down the ocean. The more I thought, the scarier it got. So I said to myself, you can do this and I took the plunge. I had my wife tape the whole thing and she was truly elated. But the point is, if you lean into your fear and go full speed ahead right at it, you will prosper and evolve beyond your wildest imagination.
I encourage you to go into this war with an understanding that victory has always meant to be yours. Fear was never meant to cripple you, but rather teach you the greatest lesson in life: YOU ARE CAPABLE OF JUST ABOUT ANYTHING.
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While I was growing up, I used to hear people say so often, "I wish I had more time! I need more time!" Needless to say, I wanted to do everything in my power not to end up as someone who just never had enough time. The only problem was, in trying to force myself to have more time, I realized I didn't have much of it. A strong will is a great thing to have, but it works in some areas of life and it can cause things to go completely chaotic in others. When it comes to time, in order to maximize it, all we have to do is slow down and just enjoy it! It's that simple.
In everything that you do, be mindful and dive into the moment. When was the last time you stopped and truly felt this moment? Let's go a bit deeper! You're in the middle of a work day and a million things are going on and coming at you from every angle. You decide to move with the pace of it all and find yourself struggling to get a moment to yourself. HERE'S WHERE YOU REGAIN THE TRUTH THAT TIME IS YOUR BEST FRIEND! You stop. Stop everything! Step away from all of the tasks, to do lists, deadlines for at least five minutes. From there, you will focus on your breathing and just dive into the moment. Breathe deeply and just be! I always joke with people about being human doings as opposed to human beings. LIFE IS ALL ABOUT BEING AND PRESENCE, NOT ALWAYS PERFORMANCE. The more you take time to be quiet and just breathe, the slower time will move, but more importantly, you will feel like you have more of it. TIME IS AND ALWAYS HAS BEEN RELATIVE, WHICH MEANS WE CAN HAVE AS MUCH OR AS LITTLE OF IT AS WE WANT. You just have to make a decision on what you're willing to see and consistently tell yourself that you have plenty of it, or in this case realize that TIME IS YOUR BEST FRIEND.
With this advice, here's what I want you to do: refuse to get caught up in things that need to get done. All that you are required to do in this life is live happily and with no regrets. Don't look up one day and realize you let it all get away from you because you didn't make the shift. No matter what lot you have in life, TIME IS YOUR BEST FRIEND! TIME IS ON YOUR SIDE! TIME IS WORKING FOR YOU! You only need to accept that it is and the world transforms right in front of you.
Shaun Robert Grant
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