"SELF LOVE FOR ACTORS...OPTION OR NECESSITY"
There's an important quality that every actor must develop if they're going to experience a high level of success in the entertainment industry. That quality is self love. I used to ask myself why is self love so significant to me as an actor? The clearest answer came in the form of the ability to deal with rejection after going on numerous auditions without booking a job or even a call back. An experience like this will have the cockiest person doubting themselves at least a little bit. But when we talk about self love and how it truly relates to actors, it becomes a matter of telling the entertainment world how we expect and deserve to be treated. It also reflects what we'll receive from outside of ourselves. You might have heard me say that your inner life reflects your outer life. It's no different when it comes to your career.
My job today, if you're not already doing it, is to inspire you to go on a rampage of radical self love. If you've been putting your career first or other things or people first all the time, NOW IS THE TIME TO PUT YOU FIRST. One of the first articles I ever wrote for NYCastings documented the importance of being LIFE FIRST, ACTING SECOND! This falls in line with the idea that if you are your best self, you can do your best acting.
I can remember a time when career would take precedence over everything. I would cancel dates, hanging out with friends, workouts and alone time to make sure I was doing all that I could to advance my career. Eventually I burned myself out and felt miserable. I knew that something needed to change. I needed to put myself first instead. Often times as actors, we are led to believe that we have to drop everything to do what we are asked at a moment's notice. DON'T BELIEVE THE HYPE! When a production wants you, or a casting director wants to see you, they completely understand that you're a person first and an actor second. Not to mention that most actors have multiple things happening at once, it's ok to create a situation that's convenient for you. Those days of you being a slave to the industry are over. YOU ARE AN ASSET! And an asset is something that is treated well and is always needed. Let this marinate in your consciousness and begin to prove that when you love yourself unconditionally first, great things not only happen for you as an actor, but as a person. Here's a few benefits of what can come from a healthy self love as an actor:
1. REJECTION IS JUST A PUSH IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION AND ROLES FOR YOU.
2. YOU PUT YOURSELF FIRST AND PEOPLE RESPOND TO THAT ACCORDINGLY.
3. YOU GAIN COMPLETE CONTROL OF YOUR CAREER.
4. YOU MAKE CHOICES OUT OF LOVE THAT SUPPORT YOUR CAREER AS OPPOSED TO CHOICES FROM FEAR AND DESPERATION.
5. THE SKY BECOMES THE LIMIT FOR YOU BECAUSE YOUR INNER LIFE IS DICTATING WHAT YOU'RE RECEIVING ON THE OUTSIDE, AND ONLY GOOD CAN COME FROM LOVE.
One can argue that self love for actors is an option, but you can never deny all of the wonderful things that can happen when it's not only made a priority, but more importantly a NECESSITY.