"THE BOSS BLOG"
Acting is not the easiest profession to pursue, but yet it is one of the most fulfilling. No one can truly explain what it feels like to be sent an email, or receive that phone call that you’ve been casted. I’m getting chills just thinking about it. But you know the one thing that could kill the potentiality of all that greatness being realized? NEGATIVITY. Yep, negativity is the shovel that can bury dreams forever.
It doesn’t have to be this way, at all. As performers, we know how important being positive and having a high vibration is to our progress, so we should not accept anything else other than that. I’ve seen more negativity in my life than I can account for, so I want to share with you what to look out for so you can do one or two things: PAY NO ATTENTION TO IT or REFLECT POSITIVE VIBES BACK ONTO IT.
One of the few things you’ll come against is the whole “CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM” thing. I’ll let you know now, most people don’t know what that is. You can tell how happy someone is with their life by how they criticize people or things. I remember my first television audition about 11 years ago. I can honestly tell you I didn’t do well at all. Couple that with sensitivity and the need to want to be a great actor, I was extremely fragile. Well, it didn’t help when the casting director sent out a reaming review of my audition to my agent. I had tears in my eyes because it went from constructive to personal. After I gathered myself, I made a promise that I would never stand for that or be the bearer of it in any case. My coach at the time looked at the same audition, after requesting the tape, and left me feeling inspired by pointing out all of the negative things, but backing them with positive reinforcement. Needless to say, I booked the next three gigs I auditioned for. So what was the difference here? One person knew how to criticize constructively and the other was allowing their feelings to get in the way of their professionalism which allowed negativity to shine through.
In another case, I joined a group on Facebook a while back where people showed their work for feedback and the negative comments were unleashed left and right. I thought to myself, this isn’t the right way to do things, at all. I created a post filled with words congratulating those that had been willing to put themselves out there in order to grow, and commended them for their courage and endurance of all the hatred thrown their way. Then, I left the group.
Here’s what I’m really saying. Uplift your fellow actor and actress! In anyway that you can, find a way to inspire them to be their best. This not only helps our careers, it helps our world. We all have it within us. We all have the ability to be phenomenal actors as well as teachers with a wealth of uplifting info to share to those who run the same race we do everyday. I challenge and encourage you today, and everyday, to make the actor/actress you come into contact with motivated to be greater. Inject with them encouragement, inject with them positivity and potentially, inject new life into their career. As actors, I urge you to WAGE A WAR ON NEGATIVITY!
When you woke up today did you feel like the greatest actor or actress on the planet? You may be wondering where I’m going with this, but I want you to think about it for a moment. What separates you from Tom Cruise, Will Smith, Amy Adams or Viola Davis? To be honest, outside of the obvious accolades, the only thing that separates you from them is the belief and confidence inside that you are the very best. THAT’S THE DECIDING FACTOR! YOUR INNER GAME AND HOW IT SERVES YOUR LIFE.
I can remember in an interview I watched with Will Smith a while back, he mentioned how even before he became a household name, he knew that he was a star before anyone else. Now at first glance it would seem crazy, but universal law states that our outer reality reflects our inner state. Every block or obstacle outside of you is only an obstacle inside of you that you need to overcome. Anything, and I mean anything can be conquered through patience and meditation.
So when you see some of the biggest stars on the planet, get excited. Why? Because you are only a few, couple or possibly one decision from being in the same place. My father in law who was a super successful investment banker once told me at dinner one time that the biggest thing to succeeding is: GETTING OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY. That’s it! Get out of your own way. Open up your heart and your world to what the Universe not only wants, but desires to give you. All of your dreams are possible. Start right there by recognizing that you are living in a dimension of perpetual possibility. Possibility is in your nature, and then it becomes probability which eventually becomes reality. So I urge you, believe in yourself like you never have before. Start right now in knowing that you have all that you need to not only be uncommonly successful, but abundantly fulfilled. All you have to do is choose. Make that choice today and wait patiently for when we’re watching you experience your moment of being the best Hollywood has to offer. I’m going to hold you to it!
One of the greatest things about life is it's unpredictability. But, if we're not prepared to respond in a way that will serve our development, we can easily get wrapped up in a labyrinth of confusion and suffering....But you know what? IT NEVER HAS TO BE THAT WAY, AND here's how you can make it a reality.
Bruce Lee once taught us to be like water. Be shapeless, be formless and move with the flow of all things. In this flow, you will find the greatest peace. I would like to draw your attention to something much similar, and it's called BEING PLANTLIKE. When we think about plants most of us see them as nature's decoration to beautify our earth, as well as givers of unlimited oxygen. But, if we look closer, plants are one of the greatest teachers of how to live life to the fullest.
Plants teach us that if we are ever going to grow and evolve into our highest potential, our foundational roots have to be the strongest. It's not the branches on the outside that count, but the roots' ability to absorb everything that will help it grow. Speaking of branches, plants know when to prune parts of itself away when it's not SERVING IT'S GREATER PURPOSE! This is one of the greatest lessons any of us can ever learn. When people, jobs, relationships, places or anything that doesn't serve our highest good, think of how a tree lets it's branch go with LOVE.
Last but not least, plants understand how to adapt to the seasons. They understand time to go inward, time to harvest, time to weather the storms, and when it's time to blossom. When we first moved into our home a few years back, we planted a few seeds out back. On most days, for quiet time, we spent hours watching them evolve. When it rained, they stood firm, when it was hot, they stood firm, when it was cold or windy, they would bend but wouldn't break.
From that moment on, I realized that if I modeled the course of my life after plants I would always be in a position to prosper and grow the way my soul desired. Same goes for everyone else. When you decide to be plantlike, you'll be deciding to be generous and someone whose able to grow in all circumstances. Embrace a species that have been here since the beginning of time and always appear to understand what's most important to all of us...THE FLOW OF LIFE!
When you first look at the title of this blog post, it can seem like I'm a bitter, unsuccessful actor whose crying out for a chance to be in somebody's project so I can show the world my talent. The only problem is, I don't live through my ego. So I don't need to show how successful I've been or I don't need to explain why you should listen to me when I say, AUDITIONING IS COMPLETELY OVERRATED. But if you're willing to read on, I think you will be more inspired than offended.
Auditioning is a prehistoric tool that can be likened to torture as it relates to all of the aspiring actors that desire to be successful stars in the entertainment industry. And then I think about all of the money that actors spend on classes learning to audition for roles. I'm going to give you the secret to a phenomenal audition, but first let's talk about all of that money spent on class after class after class....Hmmmm, what if actors were able to take that money and put it into MARKETING? What if actors were able to take that money and buy a camera to shoot FOOTAGE IN THEIR GREATEST LIGHT? What if actors took that money to travel, and experience the thing that would be the greatest acting teacher of all, LIFE? These are all ideas that I find would serve your career best, as opposed to repeatedly going to cattle calls that are asking you to be anyone other than the amazing you...And that's just it! You are amazing, whether you have 50 credits or two credits...Because your amazingness doesn't come from a casting director telling you that you are, it comes from the Divine intelligence that created you to impact this world with your talent....So, here's the keys to an amazing audition: 1. YOU'RE A STAR ALREADY. YOU DON'T NEED ANYBODY'S JOB OR APPROVAL. 2. BE YOURSELF, NOT THE CHARACTER, AUTHENTICITY ALWAYS WINS. 3. CARE LESS ABOUT THE OUTCOME. IT'S UP TO THE UNIVERSE.
It took me years to realize how simple, yet liberating this process was, and it can be the same for you. Here's another issue with auditioning. It teaches actors to view themselves as employees as opposed to the entreperformers they truly are. How can you ever be successful, or better yet impactful, when you're putting the fate of your entire career & livelihood into the hands of someone else. REFUSE AT THIS POINT, FROM NOW ON TO EVER GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER LIKE THIS. Start thinking about what serves your progressive development in this industry and ultimate success, as opposed to wasting time with auditions. People have fought me on this for years, but I just got tired of the actor's rat race. I knew, especially after living from my heart center that something had to change...And that's what I did, I cancelled my Actors access, Lacasting, Casting Frontier and upcast accounts. I decided to take a stand instead and carve my legacy to break the norm.
So in getting back to why auditioning is overrated, another important aspect comes to mind. Why not take that money you used to pay for classes to be an audition expert, why not take that money and hire a crew, write a script and make your own film. This may seem like a daunting task, initially, but I once made a movie for under $100. I wrote it, so I knew every aspect of the character needed to give a great performance. You can also! I encourage you right now, to make your mark by thinking like an entrepreneur. Put your faith in yourself, get creative and make your dreams come true! We live in a day and age where there's a festival around the world at least once a month, universities are always screening films, vimeo will allow you to upload your movies for a minimal monthly fee and youtube will allow you to upload any content for FREE!!...With all of this working in your favor, why waste two hours in traffic, waiting room and auditioning, why not write a script. If you need help, put out a memo on Facebook or Craigslist. Point is, you are an unlimited being and your resources are unlimited. Refuse to wait for your big break...CREATE IT!!
In conclusion, I know to some it may sound crazy, but to many it makes sense...It makes a lot of sense. I started a blog because actors need to know that they don't need to take the same road the other 5 million actors are taking. But, they can follow they're heart and open up some of the most innovative ways to expand creatively and find immense joy. All I can say is that I'm excited for what's out there for you. The power is truly in your hands when as an actor you realize auditioning is completely overrated. I leave you with a story that rings true to this concept I'm relaying to you. Billy Bob Thornton came to Hollywood with dreams, like most of us, of being a star and creating an impact in the film industry. No one really took him seriously and he auditioned for years before taking matters into his own hands. ENTER SLING BLADE! Thornton's drive and willingness to shift from the masses led him to write, direct, produce and act in this movie he created. From there, Hollywood took notice and the rest is history. I know...This could be you! What are you waiting for?
The Vibrational Actor
Heart Centered Acting
My life has transformed more than I could have ever imagined in these last few months. It's filled with so much happiness, fulfillment and peace. But guess what, I don't have a new car, a new house, a million dollars, a lead role in a film, a New York Times bestseller or even a celebrity client. The beauty of this new life is that it has nothing to do with things. Other than weight loss and a few other things, physically nothing has changed, but from a spiritual and emotional standpoint, I'm light years away from who I used to be. For all of this, I can thank the heart centered existence. I stand eternally grateful for this moment to share master keys to true joy and happiness.
For the longest time, I planned on being happy "ONCE SOMETHING HAPPENED." It was always my mantra. I can remember before we bought our home and I looked at our bank account sitting at six figures, I was as empty as ever emotionally. How could I be this unhappy with all of this money in our possession? Well for starters, the universe was showing me the ultimate truth: NOTHING OUTSIDE OF YOURSELF CAN EVER CREATE SUSTAINABLE HAPPINESS AND JOY. This is a spiritual dead end. But then something changed. I felt the greatest urge to meditate and go within. Like really go within. The first few days I was on cloud nine. Then, my past, my childhood, rejections, feelings of unworthiness rose like lava in an active volcano. There were days filled with immense sadness and despair. I didn't understand it, but I did take the time to feel it. Transformation was happening before my eyes. I continued to meditate and what happened next was what has led me to more happiness than I could ever imagine. My heart, as it spoke to me, I began to hear it much more clearly as the loving, divine voice that it is for each and every human being. This time, I decided to listen. Every decision from that point was made from the heart center. From the smallest, to the greatest, my heart has guided every decision I've made. And behind everyone, there has been abundant joy, happiness and support from a universal standpoint. It was almost as if I had decided up to this point to live the hard version of life until a guiding hand opened my eyes to a smoother, more fulfilling path. I stopped one day, and realized, THIS IS THE LIFE WE ARE ALL SUPPOSED TO BE LIVING, ESPECIALLY IF WE DESIRE TRUE HAPPINESS.
So you have to ask yourself, are you truly happy? Do you experience more frustration than ease? Does life seem hard for you? Or has it felt like it will never get better? Do you feel like you need "STUFF OR THINGS" to justify your infinite magnificence? If so, you're right where you need to be. Start by asking your heart what it desires. Go deep within and feel your way to your most inspired, divinely guided direction. From there, a new world filled with unlimited treasure becomes opened to you. Start, now.
Heart Centered Love